Voids

Friday, April 15, 2011 | |

It doesn't matter much anymore I suppose, because I know the answer. And I have always known it. The bottle isn't either half-full or half-empty. It's both. But isn't it such a strange feeling? Though you have answered and beat a question so precisely right, you still feel beclouded. As if you're missing something.

I sat there staring at the Corona bottles in midst of all the cheers and laughter. The semester had ended and my college department had gone out to celebrate. Half-full or half-empty? I was reminded of the times when a friend had asked me that in high-school. After answering them blatantly in either-or fashion for a while, I found myself finally caught up with the answer. The truth is that it's both half-full and half-empty. How obvious it is when you've phrased it. By definition, one state entails the state of another. But we often miss that fact, because we seem so obliviously focused in answering the question rather than testing the question.

I quietly withdrew myself from the bar. I needed some room for myself. I'm not too fond of bars anyway. But still wondering about which, I felt the insuperable gap between perception and the truth. That is, how can you think beyond what you can perceive? Given the answer, you can say the bottle is both half-full and half-empty. But for those who haven't realized, how do you go about acknowledging that it's both? What pushes them to see that? If you're stuck, what makes you unstuck? My thoughts trailed on and I wondered whether this is very much the same as understanding another person. The differences and the likenesses of myself to another. I can easily identify how we are different and how we are similar. But trying to sense and withhold both the differences and the similarities together is distressing. Hard.

I'm not sure if I make much sense.

3 comments:

deulhee said...

1. i think get what you mean. you're always told to choose sides.. not just in knowing/liking people but like.. never allowed to sit "on the fence" when the answer could very well be "on the fence"

2. corona reminds me of skunks... smell it next time you get a chance

Issac Rhim said...

1. good point. i didn't think of that interpretation; i see what you're saying. that makes sense. though i believe the idea of a "fence" in your metaphor is too convenient a truth applicable in all cases.

2. yes, ma'am. as a biology major, i'll make sure to analyze for skunks in the corona next time around. though i think i majored in human biology.. so it was mostly human related. well, i forget. it's not important.

Anonymous said...

Skunks... thiols!

Anyway, I feel similarly about the coexistence of extremes. I think I also understand what you're saying in your last paragraph but I can't elaborate in my own words.

A friend of mine might react negatively to being cut off in line, but at other times might willingly give up their place in line for someone else. This person is neither and both impatient and patient. How unfortunate that we can't see that until we see that.